WHY DO WE TAKE THINGS SO PERSONALLY?
“Hey, don’t take it personally.” It’s a phrase we have all heard throughout our lives, but what does it really mean? This week, Hallie and I discuss what it really means to take something personally from both a spiritual and leadership approach. We talk about what taking something personally has to do with your ego, and how to learn to separate the “you” that is experiencing something with the inevitable unfolding of life. We share what we’ve stopped taking so personally in our lives. And, finally, we discuss how leaders can better handle having tough conversations with their employees without telling them to not take things so personally.
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Timestamps:
[11:51] How can we say it’s not personal if that’s also the whole construct of spirituality and growth is about making it all personal?
[12:36] We discuss how taking it personally looks differently depending on the level you are playing at.
[14:01] When we take things personally, our ego is directly affected. How can we learn to observe and know that the self is just experiencing it, and not get too tangled up in it?
[14:23] None of the experiences you are experiencing are actually personal. They are just life unfolding. What feels personal is really the ego.
[19:40] Most people go through their life taking things personally.
[24:16] How can leaders learn not to take things personally?
[26:02] When you’re engaged in an activity that is going to likely disturb somebody, acknowledging it can be helpful rather than telling them not to take things personally.
[32:26] Personal growth is actually the elimination of something personal.
[36:24] We have our whole lives to practice letting go of the things that hold us back, and to learn how to not take things personally both in business and spirituality.
