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Halloween is a big deal for kids, well, at least for my kids. They’ve been debating since summer ended and school began what they would be. A witch? A princess? A firefighter? A fairy, a frog, a fisherman? Or perhaps Elsa, Dorothy, or Hercules? The struggle is real. After much debate, I’ve now got Peppa the Pig, Black Panther, and a fallen angel running around my house. It’s kind of funny how much time and effort kids (and for that matter, adults) put into imagining, planning, and creating who they are going to be for one night out of the year. What if we put that much time and effort into thinking about who we want to become as a person?
I know, I know, let’s shift gears before I ruin the Halloween fun and get too philosophical on you. Halloween is about tricks and treats, the suspension of reality, and scaring the pants of your friends and family. In small doses, of course, while you’re still in control. That physical, primal feeling of being terrified is not something that many people experience in life. Experiences are what drive us. And since we no longer live in the days of tigers and warring families, we don’t often feel that primal fear. Many enter into it willingly around Halloween through haunted houses or simulate that primal fear through scary movies. Now, psychological fear on the other hand. That, us mere mortals, have on lock. The fear that you won’t be able to give your children everything they want, the fear of public speaking, the fear of quitting your job and staring your own business, or the fear of being judged. While not life-threatening, those fears are just as real and can cause a visceral response, not to mention a whole lot of worry, stress, and anxiety.
A few months ago, I asked my team a simple, yet powerful question: What are you most afraid of? Many of our real estate team CEOs and leadership team members took several days to respond. As they should. It might be a simple question, but it’s not a simple answer. Sure, on the surface level, they thought of things quickly, like being afraid of snakes or heights, but that wasn’t really what the question was about. This is not a water-skiing kind of question, but rather a deep, scuba-dive into your subconscious. It’s there that those fears live and it’s there that many of your limiting beliefs live, where your self-sabotaging behavior thrives, and where your decisions stem from. It’s time to shed some light on those fears and free them from the darkness. Only then can you actually make progress.
Here are a few examples of the responses I got:
Here’s the thing, it can be pretty scary just to think about this question and to be completely honest with yourself about what you fear. Chances are, whatever that fear is has been dictating your actions and holding you back from what you truly want for years. But the beauty of this question is that once you name that fear, then you can get to work overcoming it. After all, the problem named is the problem solved. You can’t move past your fears without confronting the. Figure out your fear and then learn to dance with it.
Here are a few examples of my fears and the dance steps I use to push through:
Once you’ve named your fear, then how do you counter-act it? What is a daily habit you can implement into your life to dance with your fear? Look, your fear may never completely go away, but learning how to deal with it, move past it, and not let it rule your life is critical to success. When you all fear to turn into courage, you grow. Learn to use fear to fuel your fire!
An entrepreneur at heart, Adam Hergenrother is the Founder & CEO of the thriving organization Adam Hergenrother Companies.
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