EPISODE #040
You know that you’ve felt it before. That pang of jealousy when you are scrolling through Facebook and see that a colleague had a major success or when you go out to dinner with a friend and they roll up in an awesome new car. You know what I’m talking about, right? We can be sincerely happy for our friends and at the same time, start tallying up things in our mind to create a win for ourselves like “Well, I’m fitter than he is” or “She’s five years older, so I still have time.”
Why does that jealousy come up, and where in the world does that feeling even come from in the first place? None of us enjoy the feeling, but if we’re honest… we know we all experience it at times.
In this week’s episode, Hallie and I explore why we are triggered when we see people close to us succeed, and why the success of people we don’t know (like celebrities) doesn’t bother us at all. We go deep into how to recognize why we are actually feeling jealous in the first place and how to truly enjoy and celebrate other people’s success – especially those closest to us.
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Timestamps
[4:30] Instead of taking the time to really get to know ourselves and fully experience the present moment, our culture and society are designed to take our “needs” and use them to distract us from what’s really important.
[11:05] When you have a psychological need like jealousy, your energy sends you signals to show there is something off. It is up to us to turn inward and pay attention to those signals instead of constantly trying to attain the next thing we think will help us feel whole.
[14:55] When you are unblocked, there are no needs and there is no jealousy.
[20:02] There is nothing wrong with obtaining that nice house, great car, or dream job. However, it’s important to know that when you feel jealous of someone or perceive them to be doing better than you, it’s your blocked energy.
[24:30] When we do feel jealous or less than, it is common to try and make ourselves feel better by listing ways we perceive ourselves to be better than the person we are jealous of, whether it’s our fitness level, how much money we have, our relationship status, etc.
[34:36] When you let an experience go all the way through you, the mind doesn’t store it and energy is able to flow more freely.
[44:15] When you are in full-blast love mode you would be completely excited for someone to do well. Observe when you are jealous as it is an important signifier for you of where you need to open up.
