Have you ever wondered where the line is between employee and friend? Maybe one day you realize that you’ve listened to your colleague talk for 30 minutes about their epic weekend. And it’s the third one they’ve had this month… so you start to wonder… “Am I being too friendly here?”
Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with hearing about important parts of people’s lives at work. At Adam Hergenrother Companies our mission is “personal growth through business success,” so we often talk with employees about their lives outside of work. (That’s what naturally happens when you encourage people to bring their whole selves to work, which is awesome.)
But you have to be clear on the difference between supporting employees and colleagues in their personal growth and getting pulled into the details of their personal lives. And it’s a fine line!
So this week, we talk about…
- Why it’s so important not to dump your own emotions on your team
- How to compartmentalize your emotions so that you’re a more effective leader
- How to stay in the moment so you’re meeting your team where they are at
- How to tell when you’re truly supporting employees versus trying to be their friend
Plus, you’ll hear how many times I’ve been to Hallie’s house in the close to 10 years that we’ve worked side by side. Most people are surprised when they hear the answer!
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Timestamps
[2:57] A large part of the day-to-day in leadership is being able to flow from one conversation and situation to the next without bringing lingering thoughts or energy into each one like an anchor weighing you down.
[4:20] Great leaders need to learn to process and compartmentalize their personal issues and energy so they don’t pull the team down or distract from the mission.
[5:25] Compartmentalizing may seem like someone is hiding something in psychology, but in business, it is actually an offensive move to keep things going forward.
[12:08] If someone legitimately needs help, support, or resources at work to help them do their job, of course, it is good to talk, but there is a difference between that and someone just looking to vent and take up time.
[15:03] If you find yourself wanting to argue or a conversation going towards a heated direction, try to pattern-interrupt to reset the conversation.
[16:26] The “sacred pause” of life, or the window in which we can choose how we respond and react, becomes longer the more we work on ourselves and dedicate our time to spiritual growth.
[20:22] The same way that it is beneficial to stay as neutral as possible about challenges and hurdles, even with positive news, it’s best to do the same. That way, the roller coasters of emotion are more in an even and consistent manner
